Internet dating is not just for
older people. College students can find love on the Web, too. Not
everyone is into the party scene. Those of us who are more shy or
reserved make friends slower than others. I am definitely a home body
and prefer to spend my evenings vegging out with a book or
on the Internet. I met my boyfriend on the Web over a year ago. It
will be two years on Nov. 19.
I started speaking with Will in an
atheist discussion page on Facebook in August 2010. We took things
slowly by speaking on MSN and Skype. At first, I was nervous
about meeting him in real life because I was afraid my mom would be
mad at me for dating someone I met on the Internet. I was very
hesitant, but after mulling it over for a month, I decided I wanted
us to meet in person. We physically met in November 2010 and spent a
wonderful weekend together.
It was also my first time having
sex. I was nervous, but he was gentle and considerate of my feelings.
I sat at the end of the bed, and he took my boots off for me. He sat
next to me and lifted me onto his lap so I could be closer to him.
We started out slowly and then we
got into it.
We spent the night learning what
the other person liked and did not like to do sexually. After we
finished, Will introduced me to Battlestar Galactica. I
fell in love with the show as quickly as I fell in love with him.
From the beginning, I felt like I
knew him my entire life. I felt like he was that best friend I had
always been searching for.
We share so many interests, but
we have our differences, too. We both like science fiction,
such as Dr. Who and Star Trek. I love vegetables, and he hates them.
It took me a while to get up the
courage to tell my mom about Will. I was nervous about telling her
because I thought she would freak out. Not that it would matter what
she thought, but I wanted her to accept it because it would take a
lot of stress off me. I wasn’t ashamed of the relationship, and I
would still keep dating Will no matter how she felt.
It took weeks of discussion with
my therapist and Will about how to break the news to my mom.
My therapist gave me a couple
suggestions. She told me to either send my mom an email saying that I
have something to share with her. I could also wait until I saw her
on spring break.
Come spring break, I was not calm
when I told her. I was hesitant, and I cried.
However, I breathed a sigh of
relief.
When
I broke the news to her, she wasn’t mad at all. She was thrilled.
Now
Will and I spend many days and nights together cuddling and watching
science fiction shows and art films.
I am grateful that I met Will
because he is an extremely calming force in my life. He helps me
through the panic attacks and depression I suffer from. He is my
anti-depressant.
Society is slowly beginning to
accept the idea of Internet dating. However, I would like to tell
everyone out there that it doesn’t matter where you find love. It
just matters that you find it.